Today I had another admirer. He just would not leave my area. I ignored (as politely as possible). I chatted some, I pushed my product (when his mouth was shut). He picked up my cups,
I told him, "I now have to throw away the part you touched"
Can I be any more obvious?
GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!
He left for a few minutes and then he was back.
To be honest I do not know what his face looks like but I know his wife died in 2005.
GO AWAY!!!!!!
Yeah I can not say that to a customer.
I keep selling,
He is there over an hour. Finally his phone rings, He says, "Oh I forgot to pick him up, it is time to pick him up."
THANK YOU GOD!!!!!!!
I turn around several times, to see if anyone in my group notices I may be in need of a close friend.
After he leaves KD from the table behind me ask. "Sue who was that man in the Beanie?"
I throw my hands out and say, "I have no idea but he freaked me out and I am difficult to freak out"
She offered to walk out with me. I declined because I had shopping to do. I could not make her wait, besides I could get one of the men to help me if I felt a need.
Suddenly my boss comes up and asks, "Sue who was he?"
I tell her "I have no idea but I kept wishing you would show up."
So she saw him and she was aware his presence was not wanted.
She was there when he first walked up. First told me his card had expired, first told me he wanted to buy the chicken.
That is when I was giving him my pitch and telling him to take the chicken, and at the register they would upgrade his card, No problem.
At that time, as Chrystal was putting my stock out she said, "Sue you are so good at this."
(Maybe at that time I should not have been so good., Maybe I should have mostly ignored him.)
When I clocked out I told her more about him, Like the Wife thing, Like he trying to push my products, Like him saying, "Oh it is called Crazy Cuisine because you are crazy to eat just one bite"
One customer asked, "Are you helping her out or what?"
I looked up and said, "NO I do not even know him, He is just here for the chicken."
( I smiled through gritted teeth)
Chrystal and I are on the lookout and if he comes back it will be handled.
So as I leave, I am suddenly aware of my surroundings, I am looking over my shoulder, watching every car, Watching for any guy in a beanie,
You all know I am not like that. But my plans were in order.
I have a good kick, ( If anyone approaches me) Pointed to Cowboy boots to Boot!!!
I have two, (2) Karate lessons under my belt.
I know what the knee is for and how to bend the thumb and go for the eyes.
Yeah I know all that, but in a sudden situation, you may not think.
So I determined to get a Big Costco Employee to walk with me.
Not a Woman. A MAN!!!!!!!!!!
All was OK but Chrystal told me to be weary. I seldom am, (weary that is) but I think I just became more aware of my surroundings.
And Yes I walked out alone. Those were all just ideas if I saw him close to the building.
Whs glad to get in my car and lock the doors. Which I did as fast as I could. LOL
He maketh me to lie down in Green Pastures,
He leadeth me beside the stillwaters.
Psalms 23:1-2
10 comments:
1.) Make no eye contact
2.) Do not respond with anything other than a mumbles "yes" or "no"
3.) Do NOT keep the conversation polite just because your Mama told you it was the polite thing to do...believe me, your Mama was wrong on this one
And likely you are very very safe, he's just a lonely man who found a woman with a willing ear and a conscience that would not allow her to ask him to leave.
I have to disagree, if you see this man again make sure
1. You look him in the eye
2. Stand tall and be confident
3. And don't act like a victim
If he had ulterior motives they dont like a woman who seems strong and can fight back... and yes Mom kick a lot with those boots and as Sandra Bullock said in "Miss Congeniality" "Sing"
Solar plexus,
instep,
nose,
groin.
But not while you are on the job!!! LOL
Not making eye contact with someone is not acting like a victim. It's not engaging in conversation.
Eye contact has nothing to do with conversation. Eye contact lets them know you are aware they are there, and that there will be no surprises. You don't need to make conversation, but don't mumble under your breath, speak strong and clear.
Eye contact has everything to do with conversation.
Eye contact opens conversation, breaking eye contact closes conversation.
To some (specifically the mentally ill) eye contact can be seen as a sign of aggression.
Lack of eye contact CAN show submission, and increased eye contact can show dominance, but I was not talking about looking down at her samples and never looking up.
I guess we agree to disagree, I believe that intentionally avoiding eye contact is a sign of fear. You need to show dominance (lack of fear), when in a situation of feeling nervousness.
I deal with a lot of mentally ill people as I know you do also; working in the library as you do. I have found a lot of the mentally ill, PTSD victims and also felons I have come in contact with get angry when you ignore them, but if you look them in the eye and speak strongly, I don't mean yelling but with authority, they back off and realize they are in the presence of some strong willed.
And most of the ones I deal with get aggressive and have been known to attack. Still others take conversation as an invitation to follow you around. Those are who i was specifically referring to.
Lol
I think we are just talking in apples and oranges. Know what I mean? Totally different sects of people.
Fact is I did look at him, I did converse but I felt no real imenient danger. I also felt e was undermining my work. I had STRONG work ethics. No I do not have an hour to make eye contact. Not possibe while working with hot foods., I did glance, I was civil, but he is gone Gone Gone. However I have an older lady that also follows me. Yeah Her. I have began ignoring her as nicely as possible. Say hello, Say Goodby, Say I am really busy. One day whe leaned on my counter and stared me down, I ASKED what are you doing? "Oh Ijust wanted your attention,"
This is an issue I am sure I will deal with a lot and I have to find each persons turning point. That is life. You just never live in fear but you do not walk into the cage of lions with no defenses. God gives us knowledge to use our heads and hearts. Fear is a good thing sometime, Fear is also God telling us to use caution and keep our lives holy.
I do not live in fear, I fear something that will bring me down to another persons level. I avoid contact with the obvious.
I sure hope this is understood. I do not live in fear, I am now living in awareness. As Gwena does since someone broke into her home. She is not afriad, she is aware of her surroundings.
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